tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190451394398154097.post2526599531701074417..comments2024-03-14T19:47:17.502-04:00Comments on Unwritten: Two Author Essentials: Thick Skin & Blinders Mystihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02147640629724678243noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190451394398154097.post-76722942305413397082013-11-19T16:24:59.590-05:002013-11-19T16:24:59.590-05:00Your advice is right on target. I've only been...Your advice is right on target. I've only been published less than a month, so I haven't had any personal attacks...yet.Leona~Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07402887334910900186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190451394398154097.post-27193430178313692232013-11-19T09:31:17.737-05:002013-11-19T09:31:17.737-05:00Great advice! Shared on FB :)Great advice! Shared on FB :)Tara Fox Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01754949710437719259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190451394398154097.post-75112646020988818652013-11-19T09:26:08.787-05:002013-11-19T09:26:08.787-05:00Amen! The internet gives people a false sense of b...Amen! The internet gives people a false sense of bravado, and I doubt that most of the meanies would dare talk to someone in person the way they do to people online. They'd get poked in the eye if they did! Definitely a Jekyll/Hyde mentality going on.Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02147640629724678243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190451394398154097.post-53238566388037671372013-11-19T09:19:49.229-05:002013-11-19T09:19:49.229-05:00Great advice, Mysti. Great advice, Mysti. Beccahttp://www.rebeccabarray.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190451394398154097.post-80206813346742185942013-11-19T09:15:32.557-05:002013-11-19T09:15:32.557-05:00You're exactly right about the opposite end of...You're exactly right about the opposite end of the spectrum. We have to be careful in requesting reviews from those we know personally. Being a baby author, I did that early on and now refrain from it. I don't tell people NOT to review my work, but I am quick to say I expect honest reviews. <br /><br />I recently turned down a writer friend's idea of reading the first three chapters of fellow authors' books and leaving them good reviews for it. If someone's not going to read it in its entirety and leave an honest review, I'd rather them not review it at all. Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02147640629724678243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190451394398154097.post-40178961647968775242013-11-19T08:58:06.344-05:002013-11-19T08:58:06.344-05:00Great advice Mysti, and a subject that unfortunate...Great advice Mysti, and a subject that unfortunately has gotten a lot of airtime recently. I am a huge fan of an online writers group for critique and feel uniquely lucky to have been invited to join one years ago. It made all the difference- and I think they are the best because they are MUTUAL. Most of the trouble with reviews, I think, comes from one-on-one requests, where you are asking for a favor: the gloves come off and who knows what closet-skeletons may emerge, maybe not remotely related to your work. But on a writers' board, all posts from a small group are seen by everyone and the respect level is properly set from the start- we're here to improve each others' writing, and it's been invaluable. You might not be as lucky as I was to find one on your first try (my second try, to add another, blew up in my face), but keep searching.<br />Also, I think your readers interested in this might want to see the thoughts of our colleague Anne R. Allen, who wrote this week specifically about the dangers of asking friends and family to review your work. Ouch!<br />http://annerallen.blogspot.com/2013/11/are-your-family-and-friends-sabotaging.htmlWm. L. Hahnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09918981970218130294noreply@blogger.com