I think I'll make this a semi-regular theme. Straight to you from the fount of useless knowledge that is Mysti.
Recently, I've been seeing some really negative posts here and there when someone has been unhappy with a critique or a review. I understand their pain. I really do. I've had my share of "This is total crap," comments too. Even less nasty things sting. Still does. It pricks my spirit to think that I didn't convey what I so desperately wanted to convey to a particular reader or critiquer.
But, what I've learned (and am still learning), is that at least they took the time to read what I wrote! That's huge--really. They could easily just overlook it and go about their day to find something more suitable to their tastes. Instead, they sat down and took the time to read and offer feedback or a review. I'm learning to be immensely grateful for just that.
About the feedback--sometimes it's not all rosy, and if I'm getting something critiqued, then, I really hope it isn't, because NO story is 100% perfect. I need to see where I've veered off the wrong path, no matter how small in terms of grammar or plot. What I'm learning to look for is consistencies. If five people point out that X doesn't work for them, then I probably should change that. Ultimately, it's up to me, the author to accept or reject the advice, BUT I have to first be grateful to have received it.
First thing to do when you get a negative critique or review? Just say "Thank you." The person has taken the time to read your work and offer feedback. If it's stung, stop right there before you bash their efforts. A simple "Thank you" is good enough. Take a few days, calm down a bit. If you still feel the need, privately message the person to ask exactly what didn't work and what they would suggest to change. And then say "Thank you" again.
It's how we grow. We write, we fail, we edit, we fail again, we edit again, and before long, we finally start to get more positive remarks than negative ones. It's just like any other craft. We get what we give, so if we're serious about writing, then by golly, stay on the ride and hang on tight!
Now get to writing!